I am not by any means implying we are all like this. I am however addressing those who are. Both men and women seem to have no qualms about hurting each other on this site. These individuals seem not to care one iota about the feelings, emotions or desires of those who truly came here to find a future marriage.
We put ourselves in a very vulnerable position and open up hoping we can find love and serenity here. We put our trust in an individual, spend our time getting acquainted with them. We believe them for their words and sincerity. We are honest, and sincere in our own right with them. Let them become a part of our life hoping they are possibly the love we have looked for here.
We give our all to make this person understand us, see who we are and what we value in life, love, and a future relationship. We delve into a world of different cultures, different customs and structure. We try to learn what it takes to be together coming from two separate worlds.
Then we soon discover the one we felt such wonderful and sincere feelings for is not really serious about any aspect of a relationship on this site. They have been deceiving us all along and playing with our emotions.
Is there some satisfaction derived from this? What is it that makes it so easy for these individuals to completely disregard the feelings, emotions and livelihood of someone so very serious about finding love here?
What can possibly make this so easy for some individuals to do to another? Why the deception and indecency towards another individual? I truly would like to understand the mindset of these individuals and what drives them to be so uncaring and cruel.
If you have no intention of being serious or committing to a serious relationship then why take the chance of another finding love away from them?
This site is NOT responsible for anyone who uses it and should not be held accountable for the actions of any who do. It is very clearly stated this site is for the sole purpose of "meeting" others. What transpires between two people here is totally left to them to decide.
To be so cruel and inhumane towards another on this site is purely the actions of the individuals who act in such a manner. I will NEVER understand why anyone would sit on this site confessing their devotion, sincerity and love for another when they know full well they do not intend to be serious.
For some this is a last hope for them to find love and happiness. Their last chance to believe in someone. So why on earth would anyone think it kind or acceptable to destroy the inner world of these individuals?
To do such a thing only makes it that much harder for two very serious individuals to believe in love and honesty. It is not fair to make those who are very serious about finding love and happiness here suffer for the indignant ways of those who are not! It is so sad to find someone who is very serious about love here and not be as open as we could be with them. All because we have endured the indecency and deception of those who were not serious previously.
We hold back and become less accepting towards someone we should not be this way with. We guard ourselves against being to open in fear of being hurt again. Simply said, our love and happiness with this person suffers because of individuals who have hurt us in the past. That is not fair to either of us!!!
I am not sure if this blog will be posted, but I hope it will be. I am sure I am not the only one who has endured this and would like to read the thoughts of others on this.