Why can`t we accept ourselves? It`s a very serious question actually. Many people can`t accept themselves who they are. Why? We all have some bad features which we are not proud of. We either smoke or drink too much, or swear. May be we have too much weight and our shape is not ideal. May be we become too angry at times, can`t control ourselves. There can be other reasons why you don`t accept yourself. In general there can be different bad values which you have. You don`t like them. You won`t to get rid of it. And that`s why you don`t want to identify yourself with these features. But it`s you actually! You can`t avoid this. It`s you how can`t control your emotions for instance. Noone else. So it would be fair and honest to confess in it and to accept this - to accept all of you in all your variety. "But wait! - you can say - you propose me to accept the features which I won`t to get rid of it, I don`t want to be such person anymore and you propose to...what?...just accept and live further?" No, I don`t propose that. Not at all. I will give you an example from my life. I`ve always taken care of my shape and my weight. It was always important for me to look good in my eyes and of course in the eyes of other people. After I gave birth to a child my figure has noticeably spoilt. Tummy and sides became bigger and not so smooth as they used to be. For a long time I refused to identify myself with this new image of me. I hated this and said "this is not me - I`m still that thin and graceful 18 y o girl." But once I went to the bathroom, turned away from the mirron as I`ve already got used to do. Suddenly I thought - "no, I have to see". I`ve stodden in front of the mirror, undressed totally and looked at myself. I saw my body in all the details with all imperfections and excess fat. I told myself "This is me now. This is what I`ve became. I am not guilty of it. I gave birth to a child and that influenced my body in a bad way but do I know how to fix it? Do I know how can I improve that?" And once I agreed with reality and stopped rejecting myself I started to work on a keeping fit plan. I searched for the good programm of exercizes and good fitness trainers who could help. I worked on my every day shedule in order to find free time for exercize. I started to work on myself and with time I realized that my shape is really improving to best. So the morality. Stop avoiding the truth. Confess yourself in everything - in what you like or dislike in yourself. And then start imrpoving that. Improving without accepting is impossible.